Vera Ezimora: Men are never ugly, only rich or poor

How many times does a woman dream of sleeping with a man who has no money, fame, and/or power, just because he’s cute? But how many men wants to sleep with women – regardless of their money, fame, or power – just because she’s beautiful? A lot.

I met a man. He’s unmarried and in his early forties. I have never been less attracted to a person. And it doesn’t matter that I am not attracted to him because we don’t have a kind of relationship where I should even be attracted to him. As much as I would love to, I cannot give more details about him because there are people who read this blog that know him. And err, I am not anonymous.

This man – let’s call him John – has a girlfriend who is young and beautiful, and when you see two of them together, they don’t look at all like people that would have anything in common. They’re like polar opposites, but each of them has what the other wants. He wants beauty, and she’s beautiful. She wants money, and he has it.

The way he dresses, the way he talks, the way he sounds — my, oh my. I’m literally having to control myself from bursting out laughing. I have known his girlfriend since high school in Nigeria, so I know that the only thing keeping her in the relationship is the money. She has always loved a man with money. The guy, however, I think he genuinely likes her, but he clearly needs to reevaluate his reason for loving her and staying in the relationship. Some bad things have gone down between them.

But the whole thing reminds me of a conversation I had with my mom. We were talking about men, women, and beauty. And mom said that for women, “our time eventually passes,” meaning that our beauty isn’t forever. More like the beauty we have in our twenties isn’t the beauty that we will have in our fifties. Well, I don’t know what mom is talking about, but I only get more beautiful by the day. Just when I think I can’t get any more beautiful, I surprise myself. That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it. But for men, however, it doesn’t matter much how good or not good looking they are, and it doesn’t matter whether or not they went to school. What matters is that they have money, and they can provide for their women/family.

This would explain a lot of things really. Like why women are the ones who alter their looks one way or another (tummy tuck, lots of makeup, breast implants, vaginal rejuvenation, liposuction, botox, anti aging this, firming that, and much more). How come men aren’t under pressure to beautify themselves? And how come women aren’t under pressure to provide for their men and family? (This is of course with the exception of single moms and/or women who have scums as men).

There are so many not-so-good-looking men out there that have women falling over themselves to sleep in their beds. While they may not have the good looks working for them, they do have money, and those that have fame and/or power in addition to the money are double and triple threats to regular men. How many times does a woman dream of sleeping with a man who has no money, fame, and/or power, just because he’s cute? But how many men wants to sleep with women – regardless of their money, fame, or power – just because she’s beautiful? A lot.

“Men are never ugly. Only rich or poor.” What do you think?